The “Don’t Judge Me” fallacy
We hear this phrase many times. People use it and send it out on social media.
It also sounds nice, but is has nothing to do with Islam.
We make judgements everyday of our lives. I make a judgement when choosing a friend or a business partner, when engaging in a business deal and when employing a domestic worker. When somebody comes to propose for my daughter in marriage, I need to make a judgement. When going for Haj or Umrah I make a judgement regarding the agent I choose.
In Islam, we are compelled to make judgements all the time because our yardstick of right and wrong is clear – the Qur’an and Sunnah.
But when somebody points out my sin, I forget all the judgements I make, and I respond with “Don’t Judge Me”. My response is wrong. I need to humble myself and accept that I am wrong. The “Don’t Judge Me” approach is actually a form of escapism and evasion. My ego cannot accept that somebody has dared to point out my wrong.
If we are not to make judgements on others, how can we ever be able to effect the Qur’aanic injunction of commanding good and forbidding evil? This process entails making a judgement that a person is engaging in evil. Only then can we advise him.
So, the next time you are tempted to use this phrase, avoid it. Consider that people who have the courage to point out your wrong have made a jugdement that is totally valid in Islam. We need to swallow our pride and accept our wrong